The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You

Gift link. One more reason why our government should pay for long term care. www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

This is sobering, and important. Being the caregiver for a parent is difficult under the best of relationships. It's time we recognize that many were not. #free #gift #unlocked www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

Poverty creates so many wounds 💔 The U.S. is reliant on unpaid family caregivers, and millions of adult children are caring for parents who abused them.

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Been a few strong longform reads in the past few years about caring for dementia relatives www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

It took me a very long time to realize that my parents did not love me. And even then, after coming to that terrible realization, I blew up my life to take care of a mother who hit me for getting bad grades in middle school.

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Such a well done long read by Katie Engelhart:

The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You The United States is reliant on unpaid family caregivers, and millions of adult children are caring for parents who didn’t really care for them. www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

I've experienced this myself and there really is no support, no awareness in healthcare or social work setting, of adult children of abuse. As the child, you are just supposed to help, right?

"And so the American system is reliant on unpaid family caregivers, and adult children in particular." Wow, to care for someone, who abused you as a child is huge. I guess I would try to pay others to do it if possible. #USAFirst in no care about citizens! www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

An emotionally devastating & incredibly well-written piece about children who care for their parent even when the parent had abused or neglected them. It's about caregiving in the US, yes, but really about emotionally complicated relationships. The kicker gutted me. www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...

We may care for a family member who doesn't feel like a loved one. It's why we use the term "caree". We want to be inclusive of all caregiving experiences, including those absence of love for our carees. We love ourselves enough to know when and how to be present. www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/m...